“A friend told me she and her fiancée had to take something called a FOCCUS Inventory as they prepared for marriage. What is this and what is. FOCCUS is an assessment tool for couples who wish to be married. FOCCUS stands for Facilitating, Open, Couple, Communication, Understanding, and Study . FOCCUS is a survey designed to help couples learn more about their unique relationship. The FOCCUS Inventory should be taken online within two months of .

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Don’t worry about whether or not all of your answers match. So maybe we were a little speedy. We’ve went over it the past two meetings and still have more to talk about! These are NOT tests, but rather instruments that prompt discussion on sometimes sensitive issues. Our conversation with the priest was about an hour and a half, but we really like chatting with him so we took our time with it.

A few things to consider. It helps the couple find topics they have not discussed, and, with the encouragement of a facilitator, it enables them to have positive, productive conversations. May in Catholic Weddings. FOCCUS assesses nineteen categories to help couples sort the challenges and strengths they are bringing into marriage. Meaning and Purpose Marriage is free, foccis, faithful, and fruitful. Shoot, I just looked at the dates of the posts.

FOCCUS Inventory and Mentor Couples

We did it during the last part of our first marriage prep class. USCCB assumes no responsibility for these websites, their content, or their sponsoring organizations. I did it in invdntory minutes, FI did his in about We’ll need 2 inventiry, so our meetings are longer.

We also noticed that the reason for a lot of our disagreements in the test was the way we interpreted the question. I think thirty minutes is cutting it awfully close Go with what you know is the honest answer and leave it at that. While FOCCUS is not a test and is not used to label couples or predict marital outcome, the report is used by the Facilitator couple to help couples celebrate their relationship strengths and talk to each other about topics warranting incentory attention.


FOCCUS Inventory

I’ve heard a half hour up to two hours. Read and whichever gut answer you have is the one you go with. Facilitators offer feedback and teach relationship skills. Marital Sexuality The two purposes of marital sexuality: During marriage preparation, the primary goal of facilitation is to help couples talk openly and respectfully to each other about topics that are important to marital satisfaction, so they can apply what they learn toward enhancing their future relationship as a married couple.

We were the first couple from our church to do it that way. Catholic Weddings New Discussion.

Four Simple Steps Want to grow spiritually with your spouse? My future spouse and I have discussed our sacramental marriage commitment to each other under all circumstances. I didn’t request it, it’s just a new thing they are doing. I sometimes feel inventiry this may not be the right person for me to marry. Looks like my suggestion is a little late. Is online dating a waste of time if I want to get married? The Sandwich Generation Taking care of your children and aging parents can be difficult.

To Trust Again Inventory Remarriage A D U 39 My future voccus and I are open to having children. I think the whole first meeting with our priest where he got basic info about us and had us take the FOCCUS test lasted fccus an hour. Check out our list of marriage preparation resources We obviously foccys intending to rush through it so that he can make the wake but he would like to be able to tell his friend today about what time he will be there, if possible.


Going invrntory it takes much longer. So just be aware that you may read it one way, and your FI another. I would let the priest know when you begin that you have a wake that you need to attend, and you don’t want to rush, but you thought he should know.

Planning a Catholic Wedding? Readiness for marriage cannot be scientifically measured, but an inventory helps engaged couples to make sure that they have discussed the most important issues. A Bittersweet Bucket List One couple’s loving response to a difficult situation.

Our priest specifically told us not to spend a lot of time on each question, he wanted our gut reaction since the questions are written to invite different understandings of the meaning. It only focucs me 20 minutes to take it, but I read fast. We have discussed the expectations each of inventorh has as to our role as husband and wife. A D U 27 My future spouse and I have discussed our sacramental marriage commitment to each other under all circumstances.

It makes sense because when our priest got the answers and we had our FOCCUS follow up meeting with him, we had a lot of the same answers and he was impressed. The Nuptial Blessing Words worth meditating on for all couples – not just the engaged.

Taking it took about 45 inventort for each of us to really thoroughly consider all the questions, and then after we had sealed up our responses, we actually went through each item and talked about what niventory picked.

A D U 7 There are certain behaviors or habits in my future spouse that sometimes annoy me.